Who knew cheesecake could be so divisive?
A mum has sought advice after her pals in a parenting group vowed to not speak to her again – and it’s all over cheesecake.
The woman, who has a five-month-old baby, explained that she had had a tough time meeting other mums in her block of flats – but that all changed when she bumped into another mum in the lifts.
The pair began to talk, and the other mum invited the original posted to meet some other local mums and go to baby groups – and, for a time, it was all good.
Until the cheesecake situation.
The mum wrote on Mumsnet:
“Last month she got really cold towards me. Stopped inviting me to groups/get togethers, said she was too busy for a meet up and even blanked me once in our buildings reception.
“I was perplexed because we had had no argument.
“Well I asked what I had done to a new mum (who has become a mutual friend) and she revealed that this friend was upset due to an incident that had occurred at our last mums get together.
“A buffet was laid out, we had all bought some food, and she had made some home made mini ginger cheesecakes in little ramekins.
“All the other mums were raving about these cheesecakes and she invited me to have one.
“I took one bite and it was horrible.”
The woman explained that she “forced” herself to take another bite, but was unable to manage any more. Since all of the other mums ate their, she didn’t think she could leave hers half-eaten.
She continued:
“So I discreetly scooped it up in a napkin and put it in my pocket. Turned out the mum had seen me do this!
“She told our mutual friend she had never been so offended and that I was very rude. Our mutual friend suggested I text an apology and give her a sorry gift as she was really upset.
“She apparently said she wanted a ‘big gesture’ if she was ever going to be my friend again. She was also upset that she had introduced me to her friendship group yet I had been so snobby to refuse to eat her cheesecake.
“I am very embarrassed that she saw me get rid of her cheesecake. But I could not eat it and did not mean to offend.
“And part of me thinks she should just accept she makes mushy cheesecake and laugh it off. This is surely not worth ending a friendship over.”
Other mums rushed to share their words of support, with many of them agreeing that the other woman was being a bit unreasonable.
One person said:
“She’s no friend. All that fuss over cheesecake, some people thrive on drama. Find some better friends.”
Another wrote:
“That’s hilarious! I’d be happy to never see her again after that behaviour!
“I went to a party once where my friend made cupcakes but forgot to put icing sugar in the icing so it was just coloured butter.
“We all spat them into napkins and hid them in various spots around the house. We still joke about it now and she also saw the funny side when we told her.”
Another said that while the woman was being “overly dramatic”, she could also kind of see her point.
They added:
“Obviously this so-called friend is being overly dramatic about the cheescake.
“However, imagine if you saw someone pocketing some food you’d made. I’d feel a bit miffed.
“But you don’t need to beg for the privilege of being her friend. I would personally just text an apology to her about the cheescake. I wouldn’t offer anything more in way of apology.”
